What can I do to get back my ex?

After you break up with someone you love, you go through a good bit of painful emotions. You feel sad, hurt, depressed and you miss them. So “What can I do to get back my ex?” becomes a question you frequently ask yourself.

There are lots of websites, books, blogs, forums and even courses written just to answer that question, what can I do to get back my ex? But using common sense can make a difference after a breakup. And common kindness can go long way toward healing your relationship.

If you are preoccupied with your lost relationship, wondering “what can I do to get back my ex?” then follow this simple advice. Then you will have the best chance of getting back together with that special someone.

Try to not play games. This is very important, but unfortunately many people turn to this during breakups because it gives them a sense of the upper hand. If you try and make the other person think you don’t care, or you care more than you really do, you are manipulating them and that can feel great, but it won’t feel great for long.

At some point you will come to find out that lying and tricking the other person isn’t a good feeling, for you or them in the long run. And anything good that happens because of it will be fouled a little because of the lies.

And some people play games where they are pretending to date someone else, or they pretend to be in love with someone else. This is only a ploy to make the other jealous. While this can work now and then, at other times it makes the breakup permanent because it backfires and they move on.

At times, your ex could be so jealous at the thought of you being with someone else that it makes them want you back. Or on the other hand, they could figure that since you moved on so quickly, you don’t really care about them anymore. You will have no way of knowing which way this ploy will work until it’s too late.

Don’t be mean, this holds true in any situation or any relationship, but sometimes the anger around a breakup makes us act more viciously than we normally would. Even if you’re hurt, the fact that you want to know, ‘What can I do to get back my ex?” shows that you are ready to forgive this person. If you couldn’t forgive them, you wouldn’t want to, you’d be glad it was over.

Think about how you’ve been acting. If you were your ex, would you look forward to spending time with you or even talking to you? Or would you not want to be with you each time? Do you holler and nag? Even if you feel like raising all kinds of arguments, don’t. Work very hard at controlling your anger and hurt, and being a person they can miss, and they will notice this.

Be on your best behavior and make your ex remember what they saw in you when you first met. They will remember your good points and will miss them. Then you’ll have a much better chance to be able to get back together with your ex.

These are some of the beginning steps in getting your ex back. They are initial steps I followed when I lost the love of my life. And frankly these aren't my original ideas. I turned to T 'Dub' Jackson when I had no idea of how to get my true love back, his ideas work wonders. To read more about his book "The Magic of Making Up", go here.